Fridae

At a stage of 40s, I seem to gain ability of seeing many things clearly. I used to be an idealist who hoped to find true love with my dream man I could spend the rest of my life with. I did get chance dated a few men in my life. Regardless if I was attracted to them physically at the beginning, I always tried my best to love them in my way and even sacrifice many things to adapt myself into their lifestyle without being able to get the same treat back. I do admire couples in a long lasting relationship in which they take care each other and go through ups and downs, unfortunately most of nice men are in a stable relationship now and they are not available. At the same time when I see couples breaking up, cheating each other, building up frustrations day by day, one holding his partner’s hand saying how much he loves him while could not get his eyes off from other cute guys, and many guys fighting for one good guy... I joined a few gay groups, but because I did not spend all my spare time and energy into that specific activity like many others do, some (or many) of the members in each group don’t consider me as part of their social circle. Nowadays, in any group, young-muscular-masculine-handsome-athletic guys (in certain race) are always the ones got more attention and partnered fast. No matter how many times I heard some guys said to me ‘aw, you are wonderful and lovely, and I care about more inside than the look...’ but eventually they will grab the Y-M-M-H-A guys as their boyfriends. I can see the craziness of the gay world. Gradually I don’t expect the forever-lasting love, and just enjoy the good time together, one day at a time; and I won’t compromise myself too much for someone who does not know what sacrifice means. Despite all the negative aspect of life I could see through, the dream of finding love never disappear in my heart. My task right now is learning to love myself more and living in a happy life because I have to know and be able to live a life happily by myself so I can truly bring happiness to others; and I am also learning not to be too serious about myself and having more fun in my life. Right now, I run 8K twice a week, square dance, yoga, swim and mild work out in moderate level and get more time just relax doing nothing. I hope to explore the rest of the world as much as I can and my traveling plan just starts. Hopefully I will share the exciting journey with some one some day. I don’t have a perfect body and I don’t expect to get a muscular body either, but I stay active and relatively fit. I am not a super masculine guy, after taking off the running shorts & shoes or clinical uniform, I can dress myself like a gay if I like, because I am gay so I must have a bit feminine side in me. I am just being myself and don’t pretend to be someone else in order to gain others’ attention. Realistically in Vancouver there are way more potato queens than rice queens. It is common to see there are many potato queens quickly approach a rice queen who just arrives at Vancouver, just like a group of honey bees surrounding a small piece of honey. The rice queen however, always has great opportunities to select and choose, he can have 7 different dates in a roll in a regular week, or build ‘friendship’ extensively with many potato queens and take time to choose the perfect one just like a king screening for a queen, or just simply holds on more than one at the same time. To be honest I am not one of the bees ;) I like Caucasian guys because they have different look and different cultures from me, not because they are better than me, and it has to be mutual attraction exclusively. I like all races because it is all about right chemistry and connection even though I am more curious about guys who have different background from me. I am not going to marry a mirror of me either like many others because that could easily bore me. I work in health care profession and just established my own practice, life seems settling down (in a positive way) or stuck in this city (in a negative way hehe). One of my exes remarks the ‘thoughtfulness and sincerity’ about me, but it is up to you to know me personally. Ideally, that guy is mature & reliable, in mid 40s to early 50s, my height or taller, has established career and regular working hours, height/weight proportional, HIV-, non-smoker, good oral hygiene, hopefully compatible sexually. The more people I contact, the more I realize that I should not limit myself with this small narrow criteria. I am open to meet people outside this small box and even consider moving to different city or country as long as there is someone worth me to do so. Life is an adventure, I am up for it.

Cnd born Chinese looking for friends, fun and ltr.

Enjoying life in Vancouver

Well-travelled and fun-loving French Canadian

lookin for new buddies

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