Fridae

In fact, it would be a lot more special.

so right capitan...

As if "straight" marriage is all the special.

In China, there are so many gay men marrying hetero women because of the conservative thinkers. It is tradition. To save the "face" of the family, they do it. Out of respect and honor of parents, they live this lie. Then what happens, these gay married men (and women), take on lovers. They live the rest of their lives in a lie. There is no love for the married partner. The married hetero to the gay person does not receive the nurturing of the relationship, the love that is expected, or the attention of a spouse. Instead, they live separated lives. For what? To save face and to uphold an outdated Chinese tradition. How "Special" are those marriages? Hundreds of thousands of them. And, what happens when the gay person is discovered? Tragedy for all members of that family results. Yeah, that is so special.

Remember the old days when hetero, married men took on mistresses? Remember the days when men were higher on the social ladder than women? Remember when marriages were arranged? Remember when there was no real love in a relationship because the parents ruled the family and the kids did as the parents said? Oh, how "special" were those marriages? At least with gay marriages, no one influences the marriages. Two people are marrying out of love for one another. They respect each other and want to be together. They a devoted to the marriage. They aspire to greater things than what tradition dictates to them.

Fortunately, there is change coming. The younger generations that are changing Chinese culture to a more western thinking culture is taking the place of the old guard. These young people are much more open to sexuality, in all of it's forms. They are accepting of their gay classmates. As a teacher, I see it every year. More and more gay boys and girls, despite their age, are coming out to their classmates, and their classmates are becoming more accepting of it. Just as hetero teen relationships are growing and becoming more open. Sure, the education system, Chinese teachers and administrators, and parents are furious when they see such things. And, they do everything they can to stop such relationships. But, "love" is more powerful than anything these people have to combat it. As time marches forward, and Chinese cultures and traditions are replaced with a more open, western thinking, the old ways will crumble, giving way to new lifestyles and new definitions of love and marriage. At least there appears to be hope.

On a more practical matter, if two gay men marry, that means more income for the family. In a society where money is king, and parents are concerned with their caretaking children being able to support them, this is logical to accept. Men make more money than women in China. When a hetero woman marries and has a child, she is often resigned to becoming a stay at home mother, giving up her career and salary producing life. A family with two gay men married is double a higher income that can be used for a higher quality of elder care for the parents. And, with the number of orphanages in China, these married gay couples can adopt these children and provide the less fortunate children a chance at a much more rich life. You want to talk about "special". That is really "special".

One additional point. If the old taboo about gay guys was suddenly lifted, it could be the perfect way for China to solve its huge imbalance between male and female. Largely thanks to the one child policy, there are 113 males born for every 100 females. That works out at many millions of spare men (tens of millions?) who will not find wives.

@gunoilh2o well, men who really wanted to find wives would not suddenly switch to finding husbands as soon as it were legal :-)