An elderly gay couple in China who recently came out on Weibo, the Chinese equivalent of Twitter, found themselves becoming a controversial topic on the social network, reports Hong Kong’s Southern Chinese Morning Post.
The men, one who appears to be in his 50s and the other probably in his 60s, say there were inspired by Hong Kong’s “Big Love” gay rights campaign launched by openly gay Hong Kong singers Anthony Wong, and Denise Ho this month. Since first posting about their relationship on Jan 18, the couple, who did not reveal their names, now has more than 5,000 fans.
“Two old men’s love” (两个老头的爱情) Weibo page
On their profile page named “Two old men’s love” (两个老头的爱情), they said that they are deeply in love and plan to marry this month and asked their online friends for their blessings.
“Please give us your well-wishes, there’s no use objecting even if you want to,” read the scrolling message on a video recording of the pair singing Yue Liang Dai Biao Wo De Xin (The moon represents my heart), a classic love song by Taiwanese songstress Teresa Teng.
In the video, they kissed passionately, stroked each others’ faces and bantered. “I really love you, little darling,” said one and the other quipped, “Old darling, old darling.”
According to the newspaper report, the retired and divorced history teacher met his partner – a water delivery worker – when the latter was making a delivery.
In another video posted three days later, the pair addressed Weibo users who opposed their relationship and urged them to not be close-minded. The more outspoken of the two shared how they met and he came to love and care for his partner who is a migrant worker.
Their photos and posts have drawn thousands of comments some which were supportive and while others were not so.
“We won’t part till we die,” the Post quoted the couple as saying on Weibo. “We will strive to be together no matter how hard and painful it is.”
The retired teacher added that he become estranged from his own child after he came out.
“Being together has been tough,” he said. “Few people support us, except a few of our older friends.”
Same-sex marriage or civil unions are not recognised in China although a number of same-sex couples have held wedding banquets that were covered by the mainstream media.
Beijing court recommends marriages with gay spouses can be annulled
In a report released last week, the First Intermediate People's Court of Beijing recommended that the state allows those who discover their spouses to be gay avoid the messiness of divorce by filing for an annulment instead, according to the state-run Xinhua news agency.
After winning an annulment, the person who filed the request would be legally listed as “single” instead of “divorced.”
The report said the number of such cases has been increasing. Current marriage law does not provide an "out" for such marriages and many of the wives view divorce unfavourably.
China has at least 10 million "gay wives," according to prominent sexologist Zhang Beichuan, adding that nearly 90 percent of gay men are already married to or will eventually marry heterosexual women, as same-sex marriage is banned in the country.
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If you are in love there are no ages...
Remember it is not the years in your life that count, but the "life in" your years that does.
Best wishes to them.
by the way gay. com'on China you can catch up with the U.S.A.,
with legalizing civil union or gay marriage etc.etc. because we
are moving a slow pace but moving. now, about this use of
the word "Elderly". dear mr author i am 66yrs and in much
better shape(mentally, physically and sizewise)than people
i worked with at AAL in there 20's and 30's. elderly to me
is 82yrs and older. hello.......
真的让人佩服,我什么时候才能这样呢?
I can now envisage the problems and the looks and stares which they are getting from their neighbour, friends, colleagues, etc. It is not easy and it may even be a test for their love.
I hope they pull through and I extend my very hearty CONGRATULATIONS and that they will live through it all and be triumphant.
They have given another meaningful boost to our struggle for recognition and tolerance.
I wish them more of the happiness they have found in each others arms during their lives.
Oh please. Elderly just means above 60 years or so as defined by the World Health Organization. In Chinese culture, there's no shame in being "elderly" and they are to be respected. In fact the men refer to themselves as "old" in their Weibo profile name. Whatever negative perceptions anyone has of being elderly or old, please get over it.
I do agree that 'age' and its various synonyms, permutations and connotations is something we can (and 'should') be able to 'get over'.
Love is ageless. It's another step toward tolerance.
Btw, Canada's largest province Ontario just a few hours go elected their first female Premier(e) who is also openly gay!!!
Let's build on hope a piece t a time n support one another in our challenging journey towards equality and just society.
Let's share more positive news of our GLBT community.
Btw, Canada's largest province Ontario just a few hours go elected their first female Premier(e) who is also openly gay!!!
Let's build on hope a piece t a time n support one another in our challenging journey towards equality and just society.
Let's share more positive news of our GLBT community.
All the good blessing to them and those who find the love ones. (Y)
这首邓丽君的歌,我昨天还在听,听了快30年了,还听过其他歌手唱过,你们俩位老兄唱的是最棒的!
我衷心祝愿你们百头偕老,相爱一辈子!
This may be true, but only because other countries, cultures and backgrounds do not know how to use the English language properly.
Truth?
Is that why you have no picture and no information . Thruthful to what or to whom?
Wish you luck and happiness together. A blessed marriage!
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