Fridae

Vitaya Saeng-Aroon, founder of a Bangkok-based support group for gay men to talk openly about coming out and their encounters with homophobia, shares his struggles and hopes for more men to find themselves.

Is Thailand some sort of 'gay paradise' - or only in comparison to its neighbours? Retired Canadian law professor Douglas Sanders muses on gay life in the 'magic kingdom.'

What does it mean to "draw a line"? Judgment? Or discrimination? Douglas Sanders, a retired Canadian law professor, ponders the public/private dividing line, and Singapore's anti-flaunting campaign.

In the last column of the series, Hidesato Sakakibara talks about marriage, with his advice to those who are being pressured to get married - heterosexually, that is.

Coming out to yourself, your friends and parents - usually in that order. Is it all there is to it? Hidesato Sakakibara asserts why being able to have sex is not enough and urges gay and lesbians to be as visible and politically active as they can.

Reader Andy Quan found Hidesato Sakakibara's article RQ: PQ (February 4, 2005) to be outdated, and just plain wrong. "If we're really going to fight racism, then how about we make sure we don't stereotype ourselves?"

How can you tell if your foreign partner is in it for the long haul or is he going to take off sooner than you could book an air ticket online? Hidesato Sakakibara asks some pertinent questions to help you access the situation.

Are most gay Asian men in America incurable potato queens because they suffer from a strong inferiority complex? Hidesato Sakakibara asserts the importance of being free to choose by taste rather than by any inferior feelings we have about ourselves.

Fridae's sexpert, Alvin Tan, issues instructions regarding Bossy Bottoms and offers a tongue-in-cheek peek into their bedroom behaviours.

Now that we're done nursing our hangovers, Bernard Wee hopes that individuals in the gay community resolve to be more engaged and aim to build sustainable relationships with other communities in the new year.